Timeline for Not having to explain my reasons for wanting to keep my last name
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| Dec 25, 2018 at 4:48 | comment | added | Monica Cellio | The answer that includes the spouse is the one that's worked best for me when I want to shut down this line of questioning. I usually say something like "we discussed it and agreed to keep our own names", which (a) acknowledges the tradition (there was something to discuss), (b) reports the conclusion without details that would invite debate, and (c) makes it about what we both did -- yes, we both kept our names, nice and equal. | |
| May 12, 2018 at 21:24 | comment | added | Andrea Lazzarotto | Unmarried parents would do exactly what married parents do... in most countries they will usually opt for the male partner's surname (although it might not be mandatory at all). | |
| May 10, 2018 at 21:48 | comment | added | cactus_pardner | Bringing up unmarried parents seems like it would fuel the fire, or possibly just use them as scapegoats. (In the U.S., there's a huge stigma about them, and lot of political smears. Anyone in the U.S. who is giving grief to a woman that she should change her last name is probably going to condemn people who have children out of wedlock.) | |
| May 10, 2018 at 20:53 | comment | added | ggiaquin16 | I really like this answer the best. Unlike the other posts, the main topic is NOT about naming kids in the future which OP only brought up in an edit later on after probably seeing so much about naming kids. This is really the main answer that doesn't snap back at the question and creating a hostile debate while also being clear and not leaving much room for a response. | |
| May 10, 2018 at 16:20 | comment | added | Bryan Krause | From the OP's tone I took away that they'd prefer this not to be a drawn-out topic of discussion, and they would prefer a quick resolution when it comes up. Your answer seems to presume that the OP wants to facilitate a discussion about the reasons. | |
| May 10, 2018 at 9:53 | comment | added | Astralbee | @VioletFlare If you add your reasons to your question I may tweak my answer, although I included as much reasoning as I did so that you could theoretically come up with your own phrase! | |
| May 10, 2018 at 9:26 | comment | added | Violet Flare | For what it's worth I don't have children currently, though I still think your answer is valid as it's still a concern that people could raise. Might it be worth adding my own reasons why I don't want to drop my name? Even though I'd like to avoid using them as answers if possible, just to give more context? | |
| May 10, 2018 at 9:19 | history | answered | Astralbee | CC BY-SA 4.0 |