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    Hello! Could you perhaps back up some of the claims in your answer with references (either external sources or personal experience? There was some concern in the comments I just purged about this escalating the questions into a conflict, maybe you can take away some of the concerns by explaining e.g. how you've used this approach and what the outcome was? Commented May 16, 2018 at 9:36
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    I'm sure there are times when this approach is warranted but your answer doesn't consider all cases. There's certainly one example in the question that seems very problematic but the quoted example "Why won't you drop your last name?" seems neutral to me (without any other context). Expanding your answer to address this may help. It's good to keep in mind that we often learn best by understanding why an answer is correct. Why is this situation inherently "blatantly sexist"? Are there times when "why" can be a matter of curiosity, not sexism? Commented May 17, 2018 at 15:48
  • @Tinkeringbell: This approach has worked well for friends I've seen use it and for similar invasive questions I've received. I'll try to find some sources when I get a chance, but it did not feel good being suddenly asked for sources right after a long string of interested/supportive comments followed by a few late-arriving-together concern trolls got deleted. Commented May 17, 2018 at 16:31
  • @Catija: OP is asking about the problem case when people don't accept her decision: "I find that it's generally males who have a problem with me wanting to keep my last name, females sometimes start of a little confused but soon accept my decision, whereas guys generally don't. As a result, I get asked "Why?"." As such, that's what my answer focuses on. Commented May 17, 2018 at 16:38