I've been in two different couples where we had this kind of problems and different ways to solve it. I never had to implement a score keeping system. My understanding is that as long as both partners agree there is no bad system to distribute chores, however I think your proposal is problematic for several reasons.

• What would happen to the score "looser" ? Is there any punishment  ? Is the whole system there only to prove a point (that you do more chores)  ?
• Playing the blame game. Someone will loose it and will not be doing as much chores have to take the blame for it, which is divisive.
• Possible loopholes in counting and weight given to each chore.
• Not addressing the core issue. If you are having arguments about who does the most and who is doing the less it's likely at least one of you is exhausted by chores and just try to get the other to do more or at least more of some of the chores. Score keeping won't solve distribution.

In our context, which is quite different, we divided the chores by type and we both have our small area of responsibility which is quite nice if you can come to a similar agreement  : no complex counting or time tracking, everyone get to choose what they prefer, and when something isn't done we can just discuss it and try to work out a solution.

Even if you don't divide chores by type, this last part about finding solutions is probably what's missing there. You have arguments, instead of conversations to improve both of your lives, because you are trying to find someone faulty. There is some example of how to request for help in something non-violent (non blaming) in the NVC sense.

Last days I had to do (list of chores).

I feel exhausted and discouraged when I know we have to do (list of next chores)

You usually have free time at (this occasion). Would you agree to take some chores instead  ?

Notice how:

• Who's doing most is completely irrelevant in that request
• There is no blame on the person; it's simply stating that the situation isn't sustainable
• The situation is still open to discussion and debates about counter-propositions

Using this kind of techniques will enable you to find solutions peacefully with your partner, which I think is better than any made-up solution to chore distribution we could bring you.

I've been in two different couples where we had this kind of problems and different ways to solve it. I never had to implement a score keeping system. My understanding is that as long as both partners agree there is no bad system to distribute chores, however I think your proposal is problematic for several reasons.

• What would happen to the score "loser" ? Is there any punishment? Is the whole system there only to prove a point (that you do more chores)?
• Playing the blame game. Someone will lose it and will not be doing as many chores and have to take the blame for it, which is divisive.
• Possible loopholes in counting and weight given to each chore.
• Not addressing the core issue. If you are having arguments about who does the most and who is doing the least, it's likely at least one of you is exhausted by chores and just trying to get the other to do more or at least more of some of the chores. Score keeping won't solve distribution.

In our context, which is quite different, we divided the chores by type and we both have our small area of responsibility which is quite nice if you can come to a similar agreement: no complex counting or time tracking, everyone gets to choose what they prefer, and when something isn't done we can just discuss it and try to work out a solution.

Even if you don't divide chores by type, this last part about finding solutions is probably what's missing there. You have arguments, instead of conversations to improve both of your lives, because you are trying to find someone faulty. There is some example of how to request for help in something non-violent (non blaming) in the NVC sense.

Last days I had to do (list of chores).

I feel exhausted and discouraged when I know we have to do (list of next chores)

You usually have free time at (this occasion). Would you agree to take some chores instead?

Notice how:

• Who's doing most is completely irrelevant in that request
• There is no blame on the person; it's simply stating that the situation isn't sustainable
• The situation is still open to discussion and debates about counter-propositions

Using this kind of technique will enable you to find solutions peacefully with your partner, which I think is better than any made-up solution to chore distribution we could bring you.