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Good motivation but bad advice. Yes, mother should know, but father wants to keep it a secret, so he will be upset, and rightly so. Don't give either cause for blaming you, so just bounce it back to father instead, as other answers suggest.

reinierpost
– reinierpost

2017-09-04 15:09:37 +00:00
Commented Sep 4, 2017 at 15:09
@reinierpost Let the father be upset with the son, the OP didn't invite him, the father announced his impending visit without even checking if his son's family was free. As I understand it, he is an egotist and a narcissist and caused his ex-wife a great amount of grief over the years. He can still come over with the old friend and visit the OP (his son), and his ex-wife can contact the friend if she wants, if and when he arrives. (BTW, the "old friend" excuse could be pure fabrication, a ploy of sorts, by the father). It is nevertheless important that he is told before he sets off.

user3114
– user3114

2017-09-04 19:08:15 +00:00
Commented Sep 4, 2017 at 19:08
Whether you're right or not, antagonizing the father seems a bad idea to me.

reinierpost
– reinierpost

2017-09-04 22:17:21 +00:00
Commented Sep 4, 2017 at 22:17

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