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    I appreciate your perception @akaioi for which, 1upvote: "Jane is not interested in learning anything, or an exchange of ideas (...) You are holding back out of (a) respect for your mother and the peace of her home, and (b) a mistaken belief that you two are on the same side." Indeed she is far more radical politically! May I clarify that the real reason for tolerating these political speeches is not only my mild personality but also my mother's belief in the Indian cultural concept of not offending a guest or neighbor -- your advice is well taken and I shall act on it if diplomacy fails! Commented Oct 2, 2017 at 20:45
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    @EnglishStudent, the advice in this answer IS good diplomacy. Except for the part where you say you're the class enemy, which sentence I disagree with. Just recognize she is incapable of rational discourse on this topic, don't engage, and walk away. Honestly speaking, she won't even be any more offended than she already is by your very maleness. She is probably aware she has a discourse problem on the subject and will appreciate you not holding it against her, but that doesn't mean you have to befriend Ms. Hyde. Enjoy the company of Ms. Jekyll and walk away when she turns. Commented Oct 3, 2017 at 0:37
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    Thanks for clarifying; and I shall take your sensible advice @Wildcard. Commented Oct 3, 2017 at 4:44
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    "If she persists, remind her that you are the class enemy, and she shouldn't give away valuable intel that you can use against her." This is brilliant-- it might get a laugh from Jane D and perhaps even wake up her human side. Commented Oct 3, 2017 at 7:55
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    "She has a speech she wants to give" not even that, she just wants to have a shouting match with someone - anyone. She knows this guy has already got the message. She just enjoys ranting. Commented Oct 5, 2017 at 10:59