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##Yes Please! This IPS Moderator would love this, too!

In our short ~100 days on Interpersonal Skills we have had several posts with root problems that relate to extremely divisive issues but the issues being discussed are often irrelevant to the interpersonal interaction and answers and comments that only tell the OP that their choices are wrong while ignoring the question aren't useful.

We have since created a site policy that answers should respect the decisions that the asker has made and not try to change their minds. This is described in my answer to the meta question To what extent do we respect the OP's request? This policy is based on a similar one on Parenting: What should we advise when one disagrees with the premise of a question?

From HedgeMage's answer on Parenting:

In these cases, I feel it is best for the offended party to pass the question by. If one doesn't practice $whatever, then one is not likely able to provide expert-level advice on it. All that is accomplished by soapboxing is to create a community with an agenda, instead of a community that provides information. I believe that responding to "How do I $x?" with "Doing $x is inexcusable and/or evil." is inappropriate, and should be dealt with using downvotes and/or deletions to prevent shrill bickering over our differences from obscuring useful information that the questioner is seeking.

###Most importantly, it is never appropriate to post an answer that does not directly answer the question asked.

So, in addition to having this extra post notice, I would like to request that we be able to link it to our meta post on the topic (if applicable) so that we can point users to the specific site policy in addition to (or instead of) the general "Be Nice" policy. Since these policy links are unlikely to change, I'm guessing this is something that can be done per-site but doesn't need to be moderator configurable. We can give the CMs/Devs a link if that's simpler.

Yes Please! This IPS Moderator would love this, too!

In our short ~100 days on Interpersonal Skills we have had several posts with root problems that relate to extremely divisive issues but the issues being discussed are often irrelevant to the interpersonal interaction and answers and comments that only tell the OP that their choices are wrong while ignoring the question aren't useful.

We have since created a site policy that answers should respect the decisions that the asker has made and not try to change their minds. This is described in my answer to the meta question To what extent do we respect the OP's request? This policy is based on a similar one on Parenting: What should we advise when one disagrees with the premise of a question?

From HedgeMage's answer on Parenting:

In these cases, I feel it is best for the offended party to pass the question by. If one doesn't practice $whatever, then one is not likely able to provide expert-level advice on it. All that is accomplished by soapboxing is to create a community with an agenda, instead of a community that provides information. I believe that responding to "How do I $x?" with "Doing $x is inexcusable and/or evil." is inappropriate, and should be dealt with using downvotes and/or deletions to prevent shrill bickering over our differences from obscuring useful information that the questioner is seeking.

Most importantly, it is never appropriate to post an answer that does not directly answer the question asked.

So, in addition to having this extra post notice, I would like to request that we be able to link it to our meta post on the topic (if applicable) so that we can point users to the specific site policy in addition to (or instead of) the general "Be Nice" policy. Since these policy links are unlikely to change, I'm guessing this is something that can be done per-site but doesn't need to be moderator configurable. We can give the CMs/Devs a link if that's simpler.

##Yes Please! This IPS Moderator would love this, too!

In our short ~100 days on Interpersonal Skills we have had several posts with root problems that relate to extremely divisive issues but the issues being discussed are often irrelevant to the interpersonal interaction and answers and comments that only tell the OP that their choices are wrong while ignoring the question aren't useful.

We have since created a site policy that answers should respect the decisions that the asker has made and not try to change their minds. This is described in my answer to the meta question To what extent do we respect the OP's request? This policy is based on a similar one on Parenting: What should we advise when one disagrees with the premise of a question?

From HedgeMage's answer on Parenting:

In these cases, I feel it is best for the offended party to pass the question by. If one doesn't practice $whatever, then one is not likely able to provide expert-level advice on it. All that is accomplished by soapboxing is to create a community with an agenda, instead of a community that provides information. I believe that responding to "How do I $x?" with "Doing $x is inexcusable and/or evil." is inappropriate, and should be dealt with using downvotes and/or deletions to prevent shrill bickering over our differences from obscuring useful information that the questioner is seeking.

###Most importantly, it is never appropriate to post an answer that does not directly answer the question asked.

So, in addition to having this extra post notice, I would like to request that we be able to link it to our meta post on the topic (if applicable) so that we can point users to the specific site policy in addition to (or instead of) the general "Be Nice" policy. Since these policy links are unlikely to change, I'm guessing this is something that can be done per-site but doesn't need to be moderator configurable. We can give the CMs/Devs a link if that's simpler.

##Yes Please! This IPS Moderator would love this, too!

In our short ~100 days on Interpersonal Skills we have had several posts with root problems that relate to extremely divisive issues but the issues being discussed are often irrelevant to the interpersonal interaction and answers and comments that only tell the OP that their choices are wrong while ignoring the question aren't useful.

We have since created a site policy that answers should respect the decisions that the asker has made and not try to change their minds. This is described in my answer to the meta question To what extent do we respect the OP's request? This policy is based on a similar one on Parenting: What should we advise when one disagrees with the premise of a question?

From HedgeMage's answer on Parenting:

In these cases, I feel it is best for the offended party to pass the question by. If one doesn't practice $whatever, then one is not likely able to provide expert-level advice on it. All that is accomplished by soapboxing is to create a community with an agenda, instead of a community that provides information. I believe that responding to "How do I $x?" with "Doing $x is inexcusable and/or evil." is inappropriate, and should be dealt with using downvotes and/or deletions to prevent shrill bickering over our differences from obscuring useful information that the questioner is seeking.

###Most importantly, it is never appropriate to post an answer that does not directly answer the question asked.

So, in addition to having this extra post notice, I would like to request that we be able to link it to our meta post on the topic (if applicable) so that we can point users to the specific site policy in addition to (or instead of) the general "Be Nice" policy. Since these policy links are unlikely to change, I'm guessing this is something that can be done per-site but doesn't need to be moderator configurable. We can give the CMs/Devs a link if that's simpler.

In our short ~100 days on Interpersonal Skills we have had several posts with root problems that relate to extremely divisive issues but the issues being discussed are often irrelevant to the interpersonal interaction and answers that only tell the OP that their choices are wrong without actually answering the question aren't useful.

We have since created a site policy that answers should respect the decisions that the asker has made and not try to change their minds to go their own way. This is described in my answer to the meta question To what extent do we respect the OP's request? This policy is based on a similar one on Parenting: What should we advise when one disagrees with the premise of a question?

From HedgeMage's answer on Parenting:

In these cases, I feel it is best for the offended party to pass the question by. If one doesn't practice $whatever, then one is not likely able to provide expert-level advice on it. All that is accomplished by soapboxing is to create a community with an agenda, instead of a community that provides information. I believe that responding to "How do I $x?" with "Doing $x is inexcusable and/or evil." is inappropriate, and should be dealt with using downvotes and/or deletions to prevent shrill bickering over our differences from obscuring useful information that the questioner is seeking.

###Most importantly, it is never appropriate to post an answer that does not directly answer the question asked.

So, in addition to having this extra post notice, I would like to request that we be able to link it to our meta post on the topic (if applicable) so that we can point users to the specific site policy in addition to (or instead of) the general "Be Nice" policy. Since these policy links are unlikely to change, I'm guessing this is something that can be done per-site but doesn't need to be moderator configurable. We can give the CMs/Devs a link if that's simpler.

##Yes Please! This IPS Moderator would love this, too!

In our short ~100 days on Interpersonal Skills we have had several posts with root problems that relate to extremely divisive issues but the issues being discussed are often irrelevant to the interpersonal interaction and answers and comments that only tell the OP that their choices are wrong while ignoring the question aren't useful.

We have since created a site policy that answers should respect the decisions that the asker has made and not try to change their minds. This is described in my answer to the meta question To what extent do we respect the OP's request? This policy is based on a similar one on Parenting: What should we advise when one disagrees with the premise of a question?

From HedgeMage's answer on Parenting:

In these cases, I feel it is best for the offended party to pass the question by. If one doesn't practice $whatever, then one is not likely able to provide expert-level advice on it. All that is accomplished by soapboxing is to create a community with an agenda, instead of a community that provides information. I believe that responding to "How do I $x?" with "Doing $x is inexcusable and/or evil." is inappropriate, and should be dealt with using downvotes and/or deletions to prevent shrill bickering over our differences from obscuring useful information that the questioner is seeking.

###Most importantly, it is never appropriate to post an answer that does not directly answer the question asked.

So, in addition to having this extra post notice, I would like to request that we be able to link it to our meta post on the topic (if applicable) so that we can point users to the specific site policy in addition to (or instead of) the general "Be Nice" policy. Since these policy links are unlikely to change, I'm guessing this is something that can be done per-site but doesn't need to be moderator configurable. We can give the CMs/Devs a link if that's simpler.