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The FAQ says:

Many trans people have told us that they feel uncomfortable, unwelcome, or even unsafe here. That isn't what we want

They're not the only ones who are uncomfortable. Other users may feel uncomfortable too, unless they follow the FAQ's advice and change their writing style, which in itself could be uncomfortable for them:

###4. I find it really distressing to use pronouns in a way I think is wrong. Is there really no alternative?

Mods might also feel uncomfortable, but unlike users, they don't have a recourse:

###M2. I'm a moderator. I often have to refer to other users, I can't choose which ones I have to refer to, and often it isn't feasible to avoid pronouns. So do I really have to use pronouns I find uncomfortable?

It seems to me that this FAQ is okay with making certain people distressed and uncomfortable, and considers this an acceptable trade-off. Is that true?

I can imagine several groups of people:

1. Users who want others to use their neopronouns
2. Users who find using neopronouns "really distressing"
3. Mods who find it "uncomfortable" to use certain pronouns (probably neopronouns).
4. Users who find it "really distressing" to use pronouns in a way they think is wrong (other than neopronouns)
5. Users who don't want to be misgendered, but don't have neopronouns.

Some of these groups contain people with autism.
Some of these groups contain religious objectors.
Some of these groups contain trans people.

Whose comfort is priority here? By answering that, the question of 'whose comfort is given the least consideration' will also be answered. I'd like that clarified.

###Answer:

We believe that all participants on Stack Exchange’s websites have the right to participate using the gender pronouns that reflect their identity. You cannot knowingly misgender people. This is what the CoC update is about at its core. Our intention is not to tell you what to think or force you to act in a way that makes you uncomfortable. Interacting with people online is often confusing and distressing. We want to minimize this for everyone. When users are in a situation that makes them uncomfortable, they can always step away or ask for help (raise a flag).

Following the CoC doesn’t require someone to go out of their way to use pronouns. If someone prefers to omit pronouns entirely, they’re welcome to do so, as long as it’s not used in an obviously unnatural way. For example, you can change "The OP wrote in his question" to "the OP wrote in the question" this is a non-obvious rephrasing. If you're writing "The OP wrote in the OP's question" for a user who asked you to refer to them with a neopronoun, that is more clearly discriminatory unless this is your default way of writing. No matter the case, no one can knowingly misgender people, so if/when you use third-person pronouns for someone, use their stated pronouns. – Cesar M♦

The FAQ says:

Many trans people have told us that they feel uncomfortable, unwelcome, or even unsafe here. That isn't what we want

They're not the only ones who are uncomfortable. Other users may feel uncomfortable too, unless they follow the FAQ's advice and change their writing style, which in itself could be uncomfortable for them:

4. I find it really distressing to use pronouns in a way I think is wrong. Is there really no alternative?

Mods might also feel uncomfortable, but unlike users, they don't have a recourse:

M2. I'm a moderator. I often have to refer to other users, I can't choose which ones I have to refer to, and often it isn't feasible to avoid pronouns. So do I really have to use pronouns I find uncomfortable?

It seems to me that this FAQ is okay with making certain people distressed and uncomfortable, and considers this an acceptable trade-off. Is that true?

I can imagine several groups of people:

1. Users who want others to use their neopronouns
2. Users who find using neopronouns "really distressing"
3. Mods who find it "uncomfortable" to use certain pronouns (probably neopronouns).
4. Users who find it "really distressing" to use pronouns in a way they think is wrong (other than neopronouns)
5. Users who don't want to be misgendered, but don't have neopronouns.

Some of these groups contain people with autism.
Some of these groups contain religious objectors.
Some of these groups contain trans people.

Whose comfort is priority here? By answering that, the question of 'whose comfort is given the least consideration' will also be answered. I'd like that clarified.

Answer:

We believe that all participants on Stack Exchange’s websites have the right to participate using the gender pronouns that reflect their identity. You cannot knowingly misgender people. This is what the CoC update is about at its core. Our intention is not to tell you what to think or force you to act in a way that makes you uncomfortable. Interacting with people online is often confusing and distressing. We want to minimize this for everyone. When users are in a situation that makes them uncomfortable, they can always step away or ask for help (raise a flag).

Following the CoC doesn’t require someone to go out of their way to use pronouns. If someone prefers to omit pronouns entirely, they’re welcome to do so, as long as it’s not used in an obviously unnatural way. For example, you can change "The OP wrote in his question" to "the OP wrote in the question" this is a non-obvious rephrasing. If you're writing "The OP wrote in the OP's question" for a user who asked you to refer to them with a neopronoun, that is more clearly discriminatory unless this is your default way of writing. No matter the case, no one can knowingly misgender people, so if/when you use third-person pronouns for someone, use their stated pronouns. – Cesar M♦

The FAQ says:

Many trans people have told us that they feel uncomfortable, unwelcome, or even unsafe here. That isn't what we want

They're not the only ones who are uncomfortable. Other users may feel uncomfortable too, unless they follow the FAQ's advice and change their writing style, which in itself could be uncomfortable for them:

###4. I find it really distressing to use pronouns in a way I think is wrong. Is there really no alternative?

Mods might also feel uncomfortable, but unlike users, they don't have a recourse:

###M2. I'm a moderator. I often have to refer to other users, I can't choose which ones I have to refer to, and often it isn't feasible to avoid pronouns. So do I really have to use pronouns I find uncomfortable?

It seems to me that this FAQ is okay with making certain people distressed and uncomfortable, and considers this an acceptable trade-off. Is that true?

I can imagine several groups of people:

1. Users who want others to use their neopronouns
2. Users who find using neopronouns "really distressing"
3. Mods who find it "uncomfortable" to use certain pronouns (probably neopronouns).
4. Users who find it "really distressing" to use pronouns in a way they think is wrong (other than neopronouns)
5. Users who don't want to be misgendered, but don't have neopronouns.

Some of these groups contain people with autism.
Some of these groups contain religious objectors.
Some of these groups contain trans people.

Whose comfort is priority here? By answering that, the question of 'whose comfort is given the least consideration' will also be answered. I'd like that clarified.

###Answer:

We view the right to be referred to by stated pronouns as humans right to which people are entitled to - and so that is our concern here. If you use pronouns to refer to someone, use their stated pronouns, that is their right to be recognized and treated adequately. As for "least consideration" we don't have that. – Cesar M♦

The FAQ says:

Many trans people have told us that they feel uncomfortable, unwelcome, or even unsafe here. That isn't what we want

They're not the only ones who are uncomfortable. Other users may feel uncomfortable too, unless they follow the FAQ's advice and change their writing style, which in itself could be uncomfortable for them:

###4. I find it really distressing to use pronouns in a way I think is wrong. Is there really no alternative?

Mods might also feel uncomfortable, but unlike users, they don't have a recourse:

###M2. I'm a moderator. I often have to refer to other users, I can't choose which ones I have to refer to, and often it isn't feasible to avoid pronouns. So do I really have to use pronouns I find uncomfortable?

It seems to me that this FAQ is okay with making certain people distressed and uncomfortable, and considers this an acceptable trade-off. Is that true?

I can imagine several groups of people:

1. Users who want others to use their neopronouns
2. Users who find using neopronouns "really distressing"
3. Mods who find it "uncomfortable" to use certain pronouns (probably neopronouns).
4. Users who find it "really distressing" to use pronouns in a way they think is wrong (other than neopronouns)
5. Users who don't want to be misgendered, but don't have neopronouns.

Some of these groups contain people with autism.
Some of these groups contain religious objectors.
Some of these groups contain trans people.

Whose comfort is priority here? By answering that, the question of 'whose comfort is given the least consideration' will also be answered. I'd like that clarified.

###Answer:

We believe that all participants on Stack Exchange’s websites have the right to participate using the gender pronouns that reflect their identity. You cannot knowingly misgender people. This is what the CoC update is about at its core. Our intention is not to tell you what to think or force you to act in a way that makes you uncomfortable. Interacting with people online is often confusing and distressing. We want to minimize this for everyone. When users are in a situation that makes them uncomfortable, they can always step away or ask for help (raise a flag).

Following the CoC doesn’t require someone to go out of their way to use pronouns. If someone prefers to omit pronouns entirely, they’re welcome to do so, as long as it’s not used in an obviously unnatural way. For example, you can change "The OP wrote in his question" to "the OP wrote in the question" this is a non-obvious rephrasing. If you're writing "The OP wrote in the OP's question" for a user who asked you to refer to them with a neopronoun, that is more clearly discriminatory unless this is your default way of writing. No matter the case, no one can knowingly misgender people, so if/when you use third-person pronouns for someone, use their stated pronouns. – Cesar M♦

The FAQ says:

Many trans people have told us that they feel uncomfortable, unwelcome, or even unsafe here. That isn't what we want

They're not the only ones who are uncomfortable. Users may feel uncomfortable too, unless they follow the FAQ's advice and change their writing style, which in itself could be uncomfortable for them:

###4. I find it really distressing to use pronouns in a way I think is wrong. Is there really no alternative?

Mods might also feel uncomfortable, but unlike users, they don't have a recourse:

###M2. I'm a moderator. I often have to refer to other users, I can't choose which ones I have to refer to, and often it isn't feasible to avoid pronouns. So do I really have to use pronouns I find uncomfortable?

It seems to me that this FAQ is okay with making certain people distressed and uncomfortable, and considers this an acceptable trade-off. Is that true?

I can imagine several groups of people:

1. Users who want others to use their neopronouns
2. Users who find using neopronouns "really distressing"
3. Mods who find it "uncomfortable" to use certain pronouns (probably neopronouns).
4. Users who find it "really distressing" to use pronouns in a way they think is wrong (other than neopronouns)
5. Users who don't want to be misgendered, but don't have neopronouns.

Some of these groups contain people with autism.
Some of these groups contain religious objectors.
Some of these groups contain trans people.

Whose comfort is priority here? By answering that, the question of 'whose comfort is given the least consideration' will also be answered. I'd like that clarified.

###Answer:

We view the right to be referred to by stated pronouns as humans right to which people are entitled to - and so that is our concern here. If you use pronouns to refer to someone, use their stated pronouns, that is their right to be recognized and treated adequately. As for "least consideration" we don't have that. – Cesar M♦

The FAQ says:

Many trans people have told us that they feel uncomfortable, unwelcome, or even unsafe here. That isn't what we want

They're not the only ones who are uncomfortable. Other users may feel uncomfortable too, unless they follow the FAQ's advice and change their writing style, which in itself could be uncomfortable for them:

###4. I find it really distressing to use pronouns in a way I think is wrong. Is there really no alternative?

Mods might also feel uncomfortable, but unlike users, they don't have a recourse:

###M2. I'm a moderator. I often have to refer to other users, I can't choose which ones I have to refer to, and often it isn't feasible to avoid pronouns. So do I really have to use pronouns I find uncomfortable?

It seems to me that this FAQ is okay with making certain people distressed and uncomfortable, and considers this an acceptable trade-off. Is that true?

I can imagine several groups of people:

1. Users who want others to use their neopronouns
2. Users who find using neopronouns "really distressing"
3. Mods who find it "uncomfortable" to use certain pronouns (probably neopronouns).
4. Users who find it "really distressing" to use pronouns in a way they think is wrong (other than neopronouns)
5. Users who don't want to be misgendered, but don't have neopronouns.

Some of these groups contain people with autism.
Some of these groups contain religious objectors.
Some of these groups contain trans people.

Whose comfort is priority here? By answering that, the question of 'whose comfort is given the least consideration' will also be answered. I'd like that clarified.

###Answer:

We view the right to be referred to by stated pronouns as humans right to which people are entitled to - and so that is our concern here. If you use pronouns to refer to someone, use their stated pronouns, that is their right to be recognized and treated adequately. As for "least consideration" we don't have that. – Cesar M♦