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###Let's please take a hard look at all this tension, and decide if it's something that we want to keep.

Let's please take a hard look at all this tension, and decide if it's something that we want to keep.

And when we didn't do something that you feel we probably should have done, it's important to give our rationale in a manner that's not dismissive. And sometimes that might mean saying scary for-profit words like "More exposure to [thing] is a big priority for us right now, so we really can't move it" We can't always be specific, but vaguely non-dismissive is much better than coming off as rude.

We'll do a better job of just outright saying "I think I lost total track of what we're trying to achieve here, can you please tell me in a sentence or two what you what you want me to take back to the team?" Sometimes that can be just enough pause to keep things from getting too hot.

And when we didn't do something that you feel we probably should have done, it's important to give our rationale in a manner that's not dismissive. And sometimes that might mean saying scary for-profit words like "More exposure to [thing] is a big priority for us right now, so we really can't move it". We can't always be specific, but vaguely non-dismissive is much better than coming off as rude.

We'll do a better job of just outright saying "I think I lost total track of what we're trying to achieve here, can you please tell me in a sentence or two what you want me to take back to the team?" Sometimes that can be just enough pause to keep things from getting too hot.

To your mention that other things that happened previously might have contributed here, I think that's part of it. The push that we felt had a level of intensity that we don't ordinarily see; I'm actually quite glad that you called this out. We can't ever let bringing the less-than-great out in each other become something that looks like normal. I've been a user since 2008, I was elected to serve this community in 2011 and to be quite honest, yesterday scared me a little. I was taken back a bit by stuff I saw coming out of us, and stuff coming out of folks that we're ordinarily quite friendly with.

To your mention that other things that happened previously might have contributed here, I think that's part of it. The push that we felt had a level of intensity that we don't ordinarily see; I'm actually quite glad that you called this out. We can't ever let bringing the less-than-great out in each other become something that looks like normal. I've been a user since late 2008, I was elected to serve this community in 2011 and to be quite honest, yesterday scared me a little. I was taken back a bit by stuff I saw coming out of us, and stuff coming out of folks that we're ordinarily quite friendly with.