Over the past year, I was made redundant, found out I was pregnant, and then, a month or so later, was diagnosed with autism. It’s safe to say my life has changed quite a bit.
Job hunting while pregnant made me confront a fair bit of internalised misogyny I wasn’t aware I had. Combined with the pressures of securing a new job before our second daughter was born, ensuring we didn’t lose out on our dream home we were frantically trying to buy, and still being a present mother, partner, and friend, I ended up with a one-way ticket to burnout.
At 36 weeks pregnant, and after my final rejection, I had to hit the brakes. I knew there was no possible way I could start the interview process over with another company, and I also knew this would mean we’d have to take our house off the market and say goodbye to the dilapidated, bat-infested, Victorian money pit we’d fallen in love with.
This was the first time in twenty years where I didn’t have a job, where I didn’t have an income. Cue identity crisis. Who was I without my career?
Being out of work for a year is not something I would have chosen to do, but it’s something I’m grateful for. It meant I got to spend proper quality time with my eldest; it meant I got to do pregnancy yoga and a hypnobirthing course; it meant I got to create mood boards for redecorating my daughters’ bedrooms; and, most importantly, it meant I got to turn my brain off and just be…
Now that my eldest has turned three and my youngest will be starting nursery soon, it’s time for me to start the search all over again.
So, with that in mind, I have a favour to ask. If you’re an ex-colleague or manager, a former vendor, a friend, or even someone who has interviewed me in the past year, I would greatly appreciate it if you could leave me a LinkedIn recommendation. I’d love it even more if you could give me a job, but we’ll work on that later.
Signed,
A 37-year-old, autistic, mother of two
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Jackie Webster