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| Feb 13, 2020 at 12:00 | history | tweeted | twitter.com/StackWorkplace/status/1227925552931184640 | ||
| Feb 11, 2020 at 16:44 | answer | added | Dherik | timeline score: 0 | |
| Feb 9, 2020 at 6:50 | comment | added | Rohit | "I get scared talking to anyone" I think you should not internalise this, and take for granted that you will never change. Go out there and face the world. | |
| Feb 8, 2020 at 13:45 | answer | added | Goose | timeline score: 3 | |
| Feb 7, 2020 at 13:14 | comment | added | Smock | When you say senior are they a hierarchical senior (ie a pay grade higher) or are they senior just in the sense that they have been in post longer or are more experienced? | |
| Feb 7, 2020 at 12:42 | history | edited | O. Jones |
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| Feb 7, 2020 at 12:41 | answer | added | O. Jones | timeline score: 4 | |
| Feb 7, 2020 at 12:25 | comment | added | Stephan Branczyk | Talk to your manager. My guess is that this isn't the first time he heard this complaint about this guy. | |
| Feb 7, 2020 at 11:33 | comment | added | SeriousBri | @user1666620 He isn't here to understand it, he is here to gather the stakeholders and ensure they can help me deliver. Questioning everyone again makes it look like he doesn't trust all the work I have done, especially since I have already had sign-off, peer review and approval from the board. He is just causing delay, I could have finished by now but he is re-reviewing the scope when nothing has changed to necessitate that. I guess you might think that is sensible, but part of my personality means that I need to be trusted, and this lack of trust has killed my motivation 100%. | |
| Feb 7, 2020 at 11:27 | comment | added | SeriousBri | @Erik Ideally I would manage to not work with him at all, but as that isn't possible I need to manage the situation in order to find a solution where we can work together. Something that doesn't involve a personality transplant on my behalf ideally. | |
| Feb 7, 2020 at 11:15 | review | Close votes | |||
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| Feb 7, 2020 at 10:32 | comment | added | Erik | What solution are you going for? You describe a situation that is difficult for you, but it's not clear to me what the better situation would like you, where you can work well with this fellow. | |
| Feb 7, 2020 at 10:29 | comment | added | user1666620 | @SeriousBri have you been to therapy? | |
| Feb 7, 2020 at 10:28 | comment | added | user1666620 | What's wrong with somebody validating work to make sure they understand it fully? It's the intelligent thing to do, I deal with it most days and try to do the same myself. It's always cheaper to find and correct errors early in the development cycle than it is to try to correct it late in the cycle. | |
| Feb 7, 2020 at 10:28 | comment | added | SeriousBri | @SouravGhosh hope the edit helps? | |
| Feb 7, 2020 at 10:28 | history | edited | SeriousBri | CC BY-SA 4.0 |
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| Feb 7, 2020 at 10:23 | comment | added | Sourav Ghosh | What exactly do you find it difficult? Most of the people complains about the lack of the the cases you mentioned above. | |
| Feb 7, 2020 at 10:20 | review | First posts | |||
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| Feb 7, 2020 at 10:19 | history | asked | SeriousBri | CC BY-SA 4.0 |