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I would very much appreciate tips on Kavana (the ability to connect one's heart to one's mind i.e. pay attention to, and feel the meaning of the words one says during prayer and the actions one does during Mitzva observance, i.e. one's service, one's Avodah).

I have seen a lot of different tips in the past. I would like to see more. Happy even to get recommendations for sefarim.

For extra, but not vital context: I haven't noticed any correlation between how deeply I understand, and how deep is my Kavana. I learn more and more about the extreme lofty preciousness of Avodah, and have been blown away, and deeply enjoyed and appreciated all these lessons. Nonetheless, this increase in length, width and depth of understanding doesn't seem correlated with the reliability of my Kavana. It is only correlated with how powerful the Kavana can be, and even then, I would be expecting "better results" from the learning than even that.

So, I would really like to explore this. One Sefer that I have yet to complete is Hachsharat Ha'Avreichim, recommended by our @Dov. I was impressed with the type of approach it takes, and I would say I am looking for more types of answers like that. However, I only apply that as a soft criteria on the answer; feel free to provide any source or tips you've found inspiring and above all, that have worked for you.


There is a lot of universal advice, but also lots of things that are unique to personality types. The extra context I added above, for example, is likely heavily a personality thing with me. It could also be a circumstance thing! There are lots of factor. That's why I think it's a good idea to ask here, because we have so many contributors and can hopefully get lots of answers. Shkoyach all!

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    A freind advised me to consider in each of the intermediate blessings of the Amidah some aspect that personally concerns me. Commented Feb 11 at 22:30
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    I'm so surprised this hasn't been asked before! It's a great "practicing Judaism in the real world" question Commented Feb 12 at 1:09
  • Here's a whole book about it opensiddur.org/miscellanea/pedagogy/… Commented Feb 12 at 15:13
  • @הנערהזה asked 15 years ago judaism.stackexchange.com/q/190/759 (possible duplicate) Commented Feb 12 at 15:15
  • @DoubleAA I'd say that's close enough to be a duplicate, especially since OP here is also looking for experience-based answers (although it is maybe a bit more broad?) Commented Feb 12 at 18:45

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There are 2 main difficulties when it comes to prayer, concentration and understanding/feeling. You seem to be asking for advice on understanding/feeling, so I’ll share what I found has worked for me.

First of all, the best way to get what you want, is to pray. Praying for God to help you connect to the prayers is no different.
I’d add to this, that customizing a little prayer (asking for his help in this next endeavor) for right before you pray can put someone in a great state of mind, kind of like how many people say a prayer before they begin learning. I’ve found that they both give me extra confidence.

Second, instead of having in mind something you currently need (which I think is often the tendency of people), try going in to the prayers with an image of who you want to be and how you want your life to look. (The reason I say this is because I think it’s natural to feel some insecurity when praying to God for things you need now. I think approaching it in the form of a bigger plan, like preparing for everything I need in life, gives a structured and more genuine feel to it.) Then as you go through all the prayers, think about how without each and every one of them, your goals and dreams are completely out of reach. Best case scenario is you’ll feel or at least recognize a sense of desperation.

I find that achieving a sense of desperation when praying is conducive for kavana (maybe it’s even the main point of kavana). You kind of just get naturally sucked in and start to feel the profundity of even the smallest prayers. (After all, whether we know it or not, we’re all a little desperate).

If you can master the art of desperation, then just take all those prayers draped in desperation, and send them up to God. He’d like that.

Good luck

Edit: if there are any seforim that mention any of these ideas I’d love for someone to let me know in the comments.

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Based on your question, this sounds like a good candidate for a community wiki answer. All are welcome to add their personal tips

  • I'm not the kinda guy you would think of as being into "meditation," but fact is, I find that the classic technique of paying attention to your breath and body to really help myself focus. I admit that sometimes I am spacing out and forget to do this, but usually I take a deep breath as I make my three steps back (before the Amidah), hold it in for a bit while either waiting for the Hazzan or whatever, and exhale very slowly while taking my three steps forward. I focus on the breath as it leaves my mouth, and this helps me focus on the words א-דני שפתי תפתח and/or כי שם ה' אקרא. Whenever I find my mind wandering while saying the words of the Amidah, I stop, and take a few very slow breaths, really focusing on the air going in and out, and it helps me think of my life, how fragile it is and so dependent upon God, and brings me back to the words I'm supposed to be saying.
  • There are halakhic guidelines to how to hold your hands, your siddur, what to look at, etc., and so even though this might not be the halakhic "ideal," I find it helpful to very intentionally switch it up every few months: I'll spend a few months using the same siddur every day, then a few months praying by heart with my eyes closed, then use a new siddur, etc. I've been doing this for about 15 years and I find that it helps a lot so that I never get too used to the particular formatting of where words are on a page and the like, and this way my brain is still 'working' while I pray.
  • Sometimes (see above), I have highlighted the names of God in my siddur so that when my eyes/mind see the different text color, I refocus.

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