Questions tagged [mourning-aveilus]
A halachic period of mourning after the passing of a close relative. There are many laws and customs relating to this period and those observing it.
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What were the birkas aveilim Hashem said to Yaakov Avinu?
The Midrash Bereishis Rabbah (81:5) says:
וַיֵּרָא אֱלֹהִים אֶל יַעֲקֹב וגו' וַיְבָרֶךְ אֹתוֹ, מַהוּ בְּרָכָה
בֵּרְכוֹ רַב אַחָא בְּשֵׁם רַבִּי יוֹנָתָן אָמַר בִּרְכַּת אֲבֵלִים
בֵּרְכוֹ - Hashem ...
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Reason for the mourning custom of banging in a nail?
There is a Chabad custom at the end of shiva to bang a nail into the floor where the avel sat. The underlying source for this custom is absent from the materials I could find online and is described ...
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Adding a line of Tanya before kaddish
It is common in Chabad after davening for someone to say a Mishna from Mikvaos 7, followed by Makkos 3:15, followed by mourners saying Kaddish. I observed a Chabad rabbi doing this, but he mumbled ...
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Emotional response to tragedy
When the meraglim spoke negatively about Eretz Yisroel, and we cried on the night of Tisha B’av, G-d said, “Since you cried for nothing, this will be a [night of] crying for generations.”
Clearly, in ...
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What happens when an Onen writes a Torah?
When someone's relative has died and the relative has not yet been buried, the living person is an "Onein" and is said to be exempt from positive mitzvot.
We say women, minors, insane are ...
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May mourners take their children out to have fun during sheloshim?
When someone dies, the siblings must observe sheloshim. But what about their children? Sure, sheloshim is obligatory only on the siblings themselves, but they are the ones who would take their ...
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Is it preferable for siblings to sit Shiva together?
I have often seen Shiva homes wherein adult siblings who normally live separately (perhaps they are married with their own families, or live in different cities) sit shiva together in one person's ...
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Why were Nadav and Avihu halachically considered Aharon’s children?
After Nadav and Avihu passed away, Aharon was prohibited from eating the Korban that was offered that day, as is the law when one’s relative passes away (Rashi on Vayikra 10:19).
Now the Gemara (...
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How was Haman invited to Esther's banquet after the death of his daughter?
Esther scroll states that Haman returned to his house mourning and with his head covered after leading Mordecai through the city streets Esther 6:12 ( והמן נדחף אל ביתו אבל וחפוי ראש.). And it is ...
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Seudas Havra'ah -- start with egg, or bread?
For the Seudas Havra'ah -- the first meal provided to mourners after the funeral [or technically, when aveilus/mourning starts], Shulchan Aruch 378:9 writes:
ומברין תחילה בבצים או בתבשיל של עדשים זכר ...
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What (if any) differences are there between an Ashkenazi and Iraqi shiva (mourning house)?
Besides for the usual ניחום אבלים (comforting the mourners), are there any differences in customs while visiting?
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Why didn't Bruriah tear kriyah?
In Yalkut Shimoni Mishlei Remez 964 there is a record of Bruriah informing her husband Rebbi Meir of the death of their sons
ד"א אשת חיל מי ימצא. אמרו מעשה היה בר' מאיר שהיה יושב במנחה בשבת ...
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Does a mourner during shiva omit the "Titkabel" verse from Kaddish Shalem?
My recollection from when I sat shiva for my father (z"l) is that if an avel is the shaliach tzibbur in a shiva house, he omits the verse "titkabel" from the final Kaddish Shalem. I ...
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Maximum shiur for chair height for those sitting shivah
According to Halacha, those in aveilut sitting shiva should sit in shorter chairs, see here. Therefor, what is the maximum shiur for permitted chair height when defining a short chair when it comes ...
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Are reels forbidden during the Omer because of background music?
I know there are already various opinions on recorded music but I'm interested specifically in posts on social media, where music is used in the background for complimentary rather than festive ...
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