The BHK (Brouwer-Heyting-Kolmogorov) interpretation (the one you describe) sees statements as proofs of these statement. So the way you need to reason is the following: If I want to show that from a statement $X$ I can conclude statement $Y$, then I need to show that if I have a proof of statement $X$ I can describe a proof for statement $Y$.
Let's start from an easy example. I want to show $P\to P\lor Q$. So I want to show that I can find a proof of $P\to P\lor Q$. By definition, I need to come up with an operation that takes a proof of $P$ and transforms it into a proof of $P\lor Q$. A proof of $P\lor Q$ is either a proof of $P$ or a proof of $Q$. So what would that operation be? In this case it's quite simple, the operation does nothing. It takes a proof of $P$ and gives me back the same proof. Now this proof of $P$ is also a proof of $P\lor Q$ (by the definition of the proof of $P\lor Q$).
Now let's look at the derivations that you have in your question. Assuming $\lnot X\lor\lnot Y$ I want to conclude $\lnot(X\land Y)$ (that is, assuming that I have a proof of $\lnot X\lor\lnot Y$) to find a proof of $\lnot(X\land Y)$).
So first of all think of what it is that you need to come up with: A proof for $\lnot(X\land Y)$ is by definition of proof of $X\land Y\to 0=1$, or (again using the definition) an operation that takes a proof of $X\land Y$ and gives a proof of $0=1$.
Now let's look at what we have. We have a proof of $\lnot X\lor\lnot Y$, that is either a proof of $\lnot X$ or a proof of $\lnot Y$.
Let's assume that we have a proof of $\lnot X$. This means that we have an operation $O_x$ that takes a proof of $X$ and gives us a proof of $0=1$. Can we use this operation to produce an operation that takes a proof of $X\land Y$ and produces a proof of $0=1$? Sure, a proof of $X\land Y$ is a proof of $X$ and a proof of $Y$. So if I have a proof of $X$ and a proof of $Y$ I can use operation $O_x$ on the proof of $X$ to find a proof $0=1$. What I just described is an operation that takes a proof of $X\land Y$ and gives a proof of $0=1$.
So now let's assume that we have a proof of $\lnot Y$. Can you come up with an operation that takes a proof of $X\land Y$ and gives you a proof of $0=1$?
The second example should be similar:
We assume that we have a proof of $\lnot\exists x\lnot Fx$ (what does that mean? try to break this down) and a proof of $\forall x(Fx\lor\lnot Fx)$ and we need to find a proof of $\forall x Fx$ (that is an operation that takes every element $n$ and and gives a proof of $Fn$.
I hope this will help you understand a little better the BHK interpretation. If things are unclear let me know and I will try to provide more details.